I will never learn

Some mornings when I'm getting ready for work, I come across an article of clothing - a shirt, a dress, a pair of underwear, whatever. And I think "hey, I haven't worn this in *forever*! I'm totally wearing this today!"

Typically about an hour after I get to work, as said article of clothing is riding up/gapping open/falling down/some unfortunate combination of the above, I think "oh right. THIS is why I haven't worn it in forever."

For some reason, when I get home I don't immediately say "fuck this, I'm donating this/repurposing this/throwing this damn thing away". And so it gets washed and put away and at some point months later... "hey, I haven't worn this in *forever*!"

2 quick things

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I spoke to O&FB this morning. It's sounding like the job is not going to happen after all. Apparently the HR person is concerned that he's going to get in trouble if he reposts a job that had legitimate candidates, so she has to interview the folks that met the screening, and only if all of them are terrible will she be allowed to repost the job. It's disappointing but I'm basically OK with it - I was worried about what was going to happen with my school stuff and all that, and I have a backup plan (finish my certificate, get my ITIL certification, then start looking for work). Also won't have to deal with the long long drive (to make me feel better, there was bad rain this morning and I saw that my commute would have been well over an hour). She said I should tell people I turned her down due to the commute. she also told me that I should talk to my current boss about getting better experience and a better title.

The saga of the bedroom (and a job update)

(this is not a dirty post, despite how it might sound from the subject ;))

So since we were getting a new mattress, that required a bunch of other new purchases - mattress cover (in particular because certain things can void your warranty), new frame/base, new sheets and blankets, new headboard, etc (since we were going from a full size to a king size).

The mattress arrived earlier than promised, and we had gotten everything except our headboard (not counting the wrong-sized one I had ordered and had to return). It was supposed to arrive on Tuesday. I checked the tracking Tuesday morning and it was marked as on the truck for delivery. yay! Then I got home from work Tuesday evening, and there was no headboard. I checked the tracking and it had been scanned back in at the local hub. A few hours later it was scanned with a note that it would be delivered next business day. Wednesday around noon, I checked the tracking, and it had not been scanned at all. I decided to open a ticket for them to check on it. I waited and waited, and at 7pm I decided to call and ask wtf was going on. The person I talked to told me someone would call me back. I got a call back around 9pm from someone telling me that the facility was closed but they would check for it the next day. They asked me to describe the item because they said maybe the label fell off and they could look for it. OK fine.

Thursday I waited all day and heard nothing. Friday morning I was pissed. I called twice - once to ask if there was an update (they said they would have the person working on my ticket call back that day) and again to update my phone number. Everyone I talked to was polite and friendly, but no one can tell me jack (and I never got a call on Friday, either). I got fed up and contacted the place I got it through, and they are sending a new one (yay!). But I can't believe how bad this customer service is. And no one will tell me anything! I even updated my ticket telling them that I expected a response and they sent me a canned 'your request is being investigated' answer. Grrr. The replacement headboard should arrive on Wednesday.

Unfortunately, with the width of the new bed, our nightstands were too wide. We looked at several stores and didn't see any we liked, and I ended up ordering a pair online. I was nervous, as they were also supposed to be delivered by FedEx (two days after my headboard mysteriously disappeared), but they came. Aaaaand they were the wrong ones. There were two styles we were looking at. There was one Zen loved and one that I loved. After we looked at both and compared, Zen agreed to the one that I loved. So that's what we ordered. But what arrived was the one that Zen loved. Too much of a hassle to send them back, so I'll get over it, but man, that was just one more disappointment in a frustrating week.

Our mattress is very supportive, but not as squishy as I wanted. We got a 2" mattress topper yesterday and I'm very happy with how it feels, so now I think we're all good (except for the freaking headboard).

In job news, I had dinner with O&FB and some other folks on Thursday night. She said the problem now is that there will be some added scrutiny related to hiring me because of the whole having to cancel and re-post the job thing. When she hired the other guy that I used to work with, she was able to just interview and hire him. Now they will want to know why she didn't interview more people, if I was really the most qualified candidate, etc. The tricky part for me now is that my next set of classes is supposed to start this week. I haven't registered because 1. I think it would be too hard to try to learn stuff for school AND learn a new job at the same time and 2. I don't want to ask my current company to pay for my class if I'm planning on leaving in a couple weeks (I assume they would ask me to pay them back, and it's $3k). If she put off hiring someone for this position for, say, 2 months, I could finish my last class (though I am not happy to see that the format is a Saturday class from 8am - 4:30pm), and have my master's certificate, which might make me look like a better candidate on paper. So I'm going to give her a call tomorrow and talk to her about that. It's a bit frustrating, but at the end of the day, I still have a job so I'm not overly concerned about it. If it ends up not working out, I'll finish my certificate and start looking in a few months.

Other than that, things are good. I babysat for my niece and nephew on Friday (he was sick so we didn't do anything fun), and had a date day with Zen yesterday, which was lovely. We also had dinner at a place that had an Easter brunch option that I'm going to suggest to the family today since we haven't made any plans yet. Today has been a quiet and relaxing day.

Bed size

What size is your bed? Is it too big, too small, or just right? If you had to buy a new bed today, what size would you get?

Zen and I share a full/double size bed. Sometimes it's fine. Other times, when Zen's elbow is in my ear or his forearm is across my forehead, or when I come back from the bathroom and he's in full starfish position, it's way too freaking small. I am hoping/planning to replace our bed this year. A queen size bed is only 6 inches (15.24cm) wider than what we have now. A king is 23(!!!!) inches (58.42cm) wider. I like the idea of a king size bed, but it will take up a LOT of our little bedroom. Any thoughts?

For reference, this is our floor plan, we're in the 12 x 12 bedroom.Collapse )

Aunt of the year!

I took my niece to the library on Friday afternoon. We played in the kids section, looked at some books (she was hoping there would be a new one from the princess in black series, but we've read them all), I (sort of) taught her how to play checkers, and then I said she could play with the iPads that they have there. The plants vs zombies game was up on the screen, and she wanted to try to play it. At one point she said "what happens if they get in the house?" I said "they'll eat your brains." When we turned one of the zombies around and he ate the other zombies, she said "does it make the zombie cry when the other zombie eats his brains?" I said "no, he's already dead." At which point my brain finally said 'HEY, MAYBE NOT APPROPRIATE FOR A FOUR YEAR OLD!' So we played a couple of other games, including one about astronauts and one with basic coding. When we left she was hoping we could go somewhere else (she suggested her favorite ice cream place. Nice try, kid, you're about to go home and have dinner), but her mom was coming to pick her up about 20 minutes after we left, so we didn't really have time anyway.

When her mom came to pick her up we got her all packed up and ready to go, and then this conversation happened.

Niece: Mommy, we played the game where you have to knock the skeletons down to stop them from coming in the house and eating your brains.
Sister-in-Law: ....
Me: (inwardly: you couldn't have waited till you were in the car??) Ha ha, uh, yeah, we played plants versus zombies at the library.

So, aunt of the year, for sure.

air freshener

They put a new air freshener in the bathroom at work.

It smells like someone took 10 million Smarties, crushed them into a fine powder, and blasted them directly up your nose.

Quick funny Zen story

Ok, only funny cuz he wasn't injured.

Last night Zen dreamed he was escaping from something and jumped a fence - and fell out of bed, breaking the nightstand on his side. He got up, got back into bed, assured me he was fine, and was asleep again almost immediately.

Cancer sucks

Sad to say that the friend I mentioned who has been struggling with cancer passed away earlier this week. I'm glad I got to enjoy her wonderful friendship, and I am glad that the last time we saw each other, we enjoyed a nice lunch together, laughed and had fun. Last time I left her a message, I told her that I love her. So at least I have that.

Happy Monday :)

It's been lovely to have some time off over the past couple weeks, but tomorrow it's back to the office. We're working on doing some planning for our projects group, but I learned in our last meeting that both of the other people in the group hate doing documentation, which is, ya know, like 50% of project management. Evidently their current method is filling in the documentation months after the project is complete, when their boss asks them why it isn't updated yet. I'm feeling not at all confident about how this is going to go moving forward. We're also having our reviews in the next couple weeks, and I'm very curious to see how it's going to go, since my boss has flat out said he has no idea what I do (thanks, boss).

Poor Zen is still quite ill. I took him to Urgent Care yesterday, they did a chest x-ray and strep test, but everything came back negative. They told him to take ibuprofen to control the fever and drink lots of fluids. Now it's just waiting for the flu to improve. He got a note for work excusing him until Wednesday, but as of today, he still feels absolutely terrible, so I don't know what happens if he's still this miserable on Wednesday. He insisted on coming to the grocery store with me today because he wanted to make a taco salad and wanted to pick his ingredients, but by the time we were ready to check out, he asked if I would mind if he waited in the car because he was feeling so weak. He hasn't kissed me since Wednesday and last night in the middle of the night he got up and slept on the couch. When I asked him why, he said he was afraid his coughing would wake me up and he didn't want to disturb my sleep. OK, well only one of us has the flu, maybe that person who needs better rest? I kept calling him to come back to bed, but I was too exhausted to get my eyes open and go out there and drag him back to bed (though I did get him there eventually). tbh, I'm a little amazed I've managed to not get sick (so far anyway). With my asthma, it could be really bad.

I've been enjoying relaxing and reading, I am determined to meet my 60 book reading goal for this year. I'm back in school starting a week from today, so I'm going to try to especially enjoy this week :) And as bad as it is that Zen is sick, I'm glad we've had a little extra time to be together the last few days. I was surprised at how much I missed him on that first shift when he was gone all evening and didn't get home til after 11pm. I know I'll get used to it, but it'll be an adjustment.

The water aerobics schedule should be back to normal this week. Last week I was one of two people who came on Tuesday, and one of three (the other two were a mother/son pair) on Thursday. In both cases, the others were happy to see me, it's always a little awkward being the only one. Typically the gym gets extra busy around now, hopefully it'll be OK. I don't begrudge anyone who wants to give the gym a shot, it's just a pain not being able to find a parking lot if I'm running late, especially this time of year when it's usually cold and snowy/icy.

I'm not making any resolutions, but I do want to do better this year - make better choices, be a better friend/partner/family member/employee, focus more on the positive stuff. I do think I need to find a way to write this out in a much more specific way, because otherwise it's too murky and too easy to talk myself out of it. Maybe I'll plan to write up something every week with what I did this week that falls into the "better" category.

I'd also like to get/make a new icon or two. I like my little fishy, but I'd like something different. I just don't know what yet.

Hope everyones 2017 has been good so far!

Just a little post-holiday update

We spent Christmas Eve with Zen's family and the day after Christmas with my family. I spent Christmas day wrapping and putting together a toy I got for my nephew, then I went to my folks house and made baked ziti and mashed potatoes as our vegetarian options for our dinner (my sister is a vegetarian). Zen went to his mom's for his yearly 15 minutes with his kids. Things went well with Zen's family. They are a little more "tease"-y than I like - it always seems on the verge of mean-spirited, especially from his brother-in-law (who also enjoys pissing off the cat). My family gathering went well except that my sister bailed at the last minute, and didn't even tell us she was bailing. She just didn't show up, and when my brother texted to ask if she was coming, she said she had previous plans with friends who were in from out of town (I mostly know who her friends are, and I'm not sure who this would be). Also not sure why she made plans in the first place since we had planned a while ago to get together the day after. I am hopeful that she really did have a thing to do and wasn't just bailing because Zen was going to be there.

This morning was one of *those* mornings. I decided I wanted a toasted bagel. I put it in the toaster, went to do some stuff, came back and it was charred. I adjusted the level, put another bagel in, and went to do some stuff. I popped it up early and it wasn't done, so I pushed it back down again. When I popped it up again? Charred. The third one I kept an eye on and STILL I almost burned it.

Then I had to go put air in my tire, because the nag light was on in my car. I went to get gas, and then drove over to their air machine... which was out of order. Went to another place, theirs was out of order too. Went to a third place, they didn't HAVE an air machine. Went to a fourth place and they had one that appeared to be functional, but it was placed right next to a parking space - which was occupied. So I had to wait for the person to come back and leave so I could park there and get air. What should have taken 2 minutes took more than 20, but fortunately the traffic on the highway was light so I wasn't *too* late for work.

Fortunately the rest of the day has been fine. I ordered pizza, so hopefully all will go well with that. :) LJ comments, like everyone else's apparently, are REALLY slow, so I'm going to try to get caught up. I hope everyone had a lovely weekend, whatever you did!